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Alyssa Pelfresne American Literature Brother Tom Murphy 10 March 2008

What Adults Don’t Understand about Teenage Dating

I am a fun person. I like to be able to go out and enjoy myself after a hard week at school. I think that everyone deserves a little break each week. So what happens if it is a Saturday afternoon and you are making plans with your best friend when your phone rings. It’s the cute boy you’ve been crushing on in Geometry. You look at your new messages and he’s wondering if you weren’t busy and would go out with him. This might just be one of the most exciting things that has happened to you in awhile. You close your phone and stop to think…“Oh no, how am I supposed to have my parents agree to let me go out with some guy they don’t know.” **One of the problems with adults is that they do not understand how teenage dating works today. There are many different ways to date compared to the past for this generation. Adults remember their past and that now affects on how they see dating boys and girls. 1205201761]]**
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Dating now and in the past are completely different situations. Today, teenagers are in a new generation and even though some things may still be the same, we have a totally different atmosphere. Back when our parents were younger, most of everything in town was in walking distance.

Their parents would know the place very well because of the small communities. Now, towns are larger and there is still a huge chance of your parents knowing the atmosphere. It still isn’t the same from when they were teens. It’s hard for us too imagine our parents having a life before us, but they did. Sure I bet that they know a lot because they’ve been there, but like said earlier, things are different. Now if you wanted to, all you have to do is sign up for an online dating system and the internet picks you out a date for you. Curfews are held for all teenagers.
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Most people who are able to drive have their own cars.

Many teenagers have more freedom to do what they please. When our parents were young, the only curfews that were held were put on by the parents.

Most families had one car for the whole family and it was a privilege to have the car for the night. Now most teenagers have their own car and more freedom that comes with the car.

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On most first dates or early on in dating, most teenagers just go see a movie, hang out, or do an activity. Adults act as if it were a big deal when sometimes it just means having fun with someone that could possibly be a boyfriend or girlfriend. Adults ask, “Well what will happen after you two go out tonight?” With parents, it seems like it has to be a cause and effect situation. How are we supposed to know how one situation will turn out later on when I don’t even know what my plans are for Friday night? Parents expect us to have an idea for what is going to happen in the future when it hasn’t even happened to us yet. Adults don’t understand that teenagers don’t have a final plan on what they want and last minute plans are so common. I know from experience that I won’t have a clue of what I’m doing later that night until about two hours before it happens.

Most things that adults say not to do, we end up doing. When one of my parents says that they don’t want me going somewhere, it makes me want it more. Also, it may cause me to do and do that activity behind their back. The more they shut out our thoughts, ideas, and feelings, the more likely we will shut them out of our life. P One thing that parents don’t understand is that just because something has happened in their past doesn’t mean that it will happen in our lives. If they had a bad experience with someone and I was asked out by another person who resembles him, chances are, a parent wouldn’t say yes because of their situation. I think that this can just be rude. Every person is different and deserves a chance. How is one parent to know what one teenager is is is like that they have never even met?!

Most teenagers understand that their parents will want to approve of what is going on in their life. Teenagers are fine to cooperate with their parents and their needs.

I want my parents to be fine with what goes on in my life. I want my friends to feel that they can be comfortable around my parents and in my home. P

Isn’t that what being a kid is all about? We do the things that our parents try so hard to prevent. We sometimes don’t mean to break the rules and sometimes we do. In the end it doesn’t seem to be the biggest thing in the world to us because we’re just teenagers. We are still figuring out how things work and what things won’t work together. We need to try new things out and have us be the ones that will learn from the situation.

I think the least parents could give us is a chance. To let us learn on our own through our own mistakes.

The mistakes, the lies, and the heartbreak will all happen to us sometime throughout our life. All we want right now is to grow up and have life happen to us.

What we need is to stay a kid and be able to mess up and have our parents be there when we fall down.


 * I like how alyssa puts her own opinion it to this story as well, but the only thing i would add is a little more examples of what the adults now would have done when they were dating. Thats is...it looks good alyssa. 1205104346**