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As a father after seeing this mark twain guy i would not let my daughter marry him. His friends almost ruined all of his chances he had with this girl, i would have killed my friends if i did not end up getting to marry the girl. They sound like they were into eachother just judging by how many love notes they wrote back and fort, 184 to be precise. I think that is one of the main reasons her father did let them marry, they were so into eachother and he did not want to ruine true love. I myself probably would not have let him into my daughters life so fast. I would have made him prove myself. I think the dad knew that the relationship was real so he baught them a huge house wwhich he later moved out of it and into that humungous house that they called home for the remaining years of their happy but not so unstressful life together. So pretty much i would not have done what the father did, i would have made him prove hiself and made sure it was not puppy love. But obviously it was the right choice so i dont know what does everyone else think. 1205462203

sSi does have a point, but I think it can be thought more eloquently. Sure Mark Twain was a partier, and no father in his right mind would let his daughter marry such a man, but thankfully her father must've listened to both of them and let them marry. He probably realized it was true love and let it happen. It is like a fairy-tale ending, which contributed to Twain's happiness and probably his writing. Therefore I think this is just something to respect not necesarily pick apart. 1205463663

I agree with ssi, he makes a good point that fathers these days would never tolerate such behavior. I can't think of anyone who would to be honest. But also you have to understand things were different back then. The strict worries we have today, they didn't have back then. Although, through the movie and Br.Toms feelings about Twain, I think that they truely loved eachother. And when two people are in love, you can't ruin it by refusing marriage between them. Maybe the father didn't want to ruin the good thing they had going. Twain seems like he is very emotional and falled for that girl really hard. But I started thinking about the father. What would you do if you were in his position? Some people might think he made a bad decision, and others might agree with what he did. Personally, I think he made the right decision. They turned out fine so he must of done something right. And the culture and environment we are surrounded with everyday is much more intense then it was during Twains lifetime. Today, we have alot more to worry about with men and women and their relationship with eachother. 1205465648

I think that if I had the choice to let her marry Mark Twain (Sam Clemens) or not, I'm not exactly sure what I would say. Considering they were always writting each other love notes it was easy to see that they were into each other. I also think that what his friends said would have impacted my decision on wether or not she could marry him. It would have made a big impact because when you are with your friends that is when you really show who you are because you aren't trying to impress anyone. That all depends on how long they were talking to each other. I also know that her parents really did know Mark Twain before they got married so they did know that he drank and swore, not from experience did they know that but from him telling them that. That also shows what kind of person he was and that probably would make a big impact also. Mark Twain was very honest and open about who he was and so her parents didn't have to wonder if he was just showing off because he liked their daughter. Overall, I think that they really did get to see the real Mark Twain and how much he really did love their daughter and that probably would have made a big impact on their decision; and I probably would have felt the same way if I had to say if they could get married. 1205467267

I commend the parents for allowing their daughter to marry Mark Twain. Obviously they were happy together and that's what would be important to me. If my daughter was happy than good for her because I'm not the one that has to live with the person and she is. If Sam Clemens is who she feels comfortable living and spending the rest of her life with then more power to them. Plus, it doesn't seem to me like he is that bad a a guy. He was honest with the family from the start and told them about his flaws before his positive atributes. A good example is when he has to get his friends to talk to the girls parents to testify that he is a good man. HE should have been worried when his friends were honest about his drinking and behavior but he had already told everyone about it so it was expected and everything went smoothly. That's how things should be. If only more people were like that these days.1205467894

I think that I would let her marry him. If he was dedicated enough to send her a letter 184 days in a row he must be more than semi interested. I think that even though his friends sent back bad letters of reccomendation, it didn't matter. I think he set it up This way. Twain must have known that these people would write some interesting stories about him and still he didn't try to stop them. This shows that Mark Twain has a good sense of humor and that he is someone who will be fun to be around. All things considered i think that Twain proved himself as someone who was worth being around, and that is good enough for me. mme

I would like to bring a new topic and that topic is raising a child and then having an early death. I think this would be the hardest thing ever to see and to live with as a parent. Expecsially when Mark blames himself for not properly wrapping his son up warm enough. He blames it on himself becuase to him it could have been avoided. It was just be hard for many years. Just becuase the fact that you would have wished you would have died and let your kid lived. It like a motherly instanct, and when you have a baby die it takes a pieve of you with it becuase you created that baby you were part of its life and you care for it every waking secound. My art teachter Mrs. Bruns her son died at the age of seven and she said it was the hardest year of her entire life. There was soo much stress on the family and it was just so hard to get over that an innicent child's life was taken when he didnt even deserve it. What are your thoughts? 1205469692Ale2